If Not For People Who Can't Keep Secrets, You Might Still Be Socializing With Those Who Say Mean, Hurtful Things About You Behind Your Back.
-me
-me
You can't make someone love you by giving them more of what they already
don't
Appreciate.
Your first and foremost job is to take care of you. Everything else comes second.
- D. Simone
Our spirit is the deepest, truest part of us. It's the seat of our emotions, our inner light, our sense of self. When our spirit feels seen, valued and nurtured, we walk with confidence and strength. But when our spirit is continually battered or bruised, we can lose touch with who we are. That's why it's so important to honor your right to protect your spirit.
What does it mean to protect your spirit? It means being aware of people and situations that are toxic or draining and limiting your exposure to them. It means speaking up when a boundary has been crossed, whether that's a hurtful remark or a betrayal of trust. Protecting your spirit means creating space in your life for activities that spark joy, inspire you, and make you feel whole.
Honoring your right to protect your spirit may require making difficult but necessary changes:
Protecting your spirit is not about ego or selfishness. It is about self-preservation of your inner light and peace. No one else can define your worth or dictate how you should be treated. Honor what your spirit needs to thrive.
When you consistently take action to protect the sanctity of your spirit, you will attract more love and positivity into your life. You will feel confident, empowered and resilient.
Shine on.
Currently listening to Shalamar-There It Is
When confronted with hurtful remarks, it’s natural to want to react or try to defend yourself. But fighting back often escalates the situation. There is a different approach you can take to help diffuse the pain of the moment and prevent lingering hurt - practicing detachment.
What is detachment? It means separating your emotions from the offending words or actions of another person. Detachment allows you to step back and view the remarks more objectively, without taking them so personally. It’s understanding these comments likely have little to do with you, and much more to do with the other person.
Some ways to practice detachment when faced with hurtful remarks:
With practice, detachment allows you respond calmly in the moment, without compromising your boundaries or feeding into the dynamic. You recognize the other person’s cruelty or carelessness says far more about them than it could ever say about you. Your sense of self remains intact.
Does detachment come easy? For most of us, it requires diligence and conscious effort. But it is a invaluable skill that helps diffuse conflict and protects your spirit from toxic barbs. With time, you can learn to let the hurtful remarks of others simply bounce off the shield of your own inner light.
-me
Currently listening to J Dilla - Beat 27 (Another Batch)