I’m a kind person. Friendly, even. But I’m also an introvert — the kind who finds comfort in quiet corners and deep conversations over small talk. Lately, I’ve been trying to stretch beyond that comfort zone, to be more sociable, more open. It’s not always easy, but it’s a journey I’m proud of.
One of the biggest changes in that journey? I’ve started matching energy.
That’s new for me. For a long time, being liked felt essential. I used to go above and beyond — overextending myself, ignoring red flags, trying to earn approval that never felt guaranteed. I thought that if I gave more, people would value me more. But I’ve outgrown that.
Now, I still want to be accepted — who doesn’t? But I’m no longer bothered if I’m not. I’ve learned that peace comes from authenticity, not performance. I match energy because I respect myself enough not to chase what isn’t mutual.
If you greet me with warmth, I’ll meet you with the same. If you show genuine interest, I’ll open up. But if your energy is distant, dismissive, or performative, I won’t chase it. I won’t force connection. I believe relationships — whether friendships, collaborations, or support — should be mutual.
This shift has been liberating. It’s not coldness — it’s clarity.
And when it comes to my creative work — my side hustle — that clarity matters even more. I pour heart into what I do. So if you haven’t supported it, maybe don’t ask how it’s going. That question hits differently when it comes from someone who hasn’t been part of the journey.
I’m learning to be more visible, more vocal. But I’ll always be someone who values reciprocity. Not out of pride — but out of peace.
currently listening to C.O.D. (I'll Deliver) by Mtime
