Just a thought

It’s difficult to get someone to understand your point of view when they are determined to be the victim.
I learned this today.
I'm so naïve. When person was arguing about her actual hatred for another family member,  I had convinced myself that all I had to do was inform person about how her actions hurt the family member's feelings, and that they would feel bad, and then say they would go to the family member to apologize. I was so wrong. All she did was twist what actually happened, to fit her feeling victimized. This is what she does.
I give up being the peace maker, or the healer. And the person that she vents to.  It seemed as if that was my job, but I quit.