Sapiosexual (n): a person who is sexually attracted to intelligence in others.
Sapiosexual (adj): of, or relating to, finding intellectual stimulation sexually arousing.
One who finds intelligence the most sexually attractive feature.
Sapiosexual (adj): of, or relating to, finding intellectual stimulation sexually arousing.
One who finds intelligence the most sexually attractive feature.
Me- "I want an incisive, inquisitive, insightful, irreverent mind. I want someone for whom philosophical discussion is foreplay. I want someone who sometimes makes me go ouch due to their wit and evil sense of humor. I want someone that I can reach out and touch randomly. I want someone I can cuddle with.
I decided all that means that I am sapiosexual."
I wish I said this myself, but I found it here
I went to a friend's birthday party in Madison Wisconsin the last time I was home, and his sister was there. I had seen pictures of her but I had never met her before that evening. My friend was telling me his sister goes on a lot of dates but she hadn't had a boyfriend in years, and she really hates being single. He didn't understand why she had such a hard time keeping a man because she was a really sweet girl (his words), and from the looks of her, I thought she was attractive. Correction-she was phine. I wondered why such a beautiful, sweet black woman who wants to be in a relationship-was single. It took me about 40 minutes to figure out why. I ignored her comments about desperately wanting to get married, or her telling me about a fight she recently got into when she was in a movie theater and the couple seated next to her was upset because she was narrating the movie for a friend who was home sick with the flu and she refused to hang up the phone and the ushers came and removed her and she demanded a refund since she didn't get to see the entire movie. After I asked if she'd like to go out some time, she smiled and said yes, followed by : “Look, let’s get this straight: I am not going to have vaginal or oral sex with you. I'm a virgin and I intend to die a virgin...but I’m pretty good at anal if you’re into that.” I was speechless.
Have you ever talked to someone who was a bit-off, but you kept listening because they were so beautiful to look at? When I was in my teens and early twenties and only looking for sex, I used to do that, but being relationship-oriented, I can't do that anymore. Some friends call me an intellectual snob, but I disagree. Before and after sex, I need to be able to talk to her. I need to be stimulated intellectually. I want nothing to do with a beautiful woman who was dumb. Find me a woman that can talk to me about her dreams and goals, politics, volunteerism, God, or about her favorite basketball or football team- even if they're not my favorite teams, find me a nice, sweet, kind woman that will beat me at coming up with the most funniest sarcastic comments (without being mean or hurtful) and I am happy.
I decided all that means that I am sapiosexual."
I wish I said this myself, but I found it here
I went to a friend's birthday party in Madison Wisconsin the last time I was home, and his sister was there. I had seen pictures of her but I had never met her before that evening. My friend was telling me his sister goes on a lot of dates but she hadn't had a boyfriend in years, and she really hates being single. He didn't understand why she had such a hard time keeping a man because she was a really sweet girl (his words), and from the looks of her, I thought she was attractive. Correction-she was phine. I wondered why such a beautiful, sweet black woman who wants to be in a relationship-was single. It took me about 40 minutes to figure out why. I ignored her comments about desperately wanting to get married, or her telling me about a fight she recently got into when she was in a movie theater and the couple seated next to her was upset because she was narrating the movie for a friend who was home sick with the flu and she refused to hang up the phone and the ushers came and removed her and she demanded a refund since she didn't get to see the entire movie. After I asked if she'd like to go out some time, she smiled and said yes, followed by : “Look, let’s get this straight: I am not going to have vaginal or oral sex with you. I'm a virgin and I intend to die a virgin...but I’m pretty good at anal if you’re into that.” I was speechless.
Have you ever talked to someone who was a bit-off, but you kept listening because they were so beautiful to look at? When I was in my teens and early twenties and only looking for sex, I used to do that, but being relationship-oriented, I can't do that anymore. Some friends call me an intellectual snob, but I disagree. Before and after sex, I need to be able to talk to her. I need to be stimulated intellectually. I want nothing to do with a beautiful woman who was dumb. Find me a woman that can talk to me about her dreams and goals, politics, volunteerism, God, or about her favorite basketball or football team- even if they're not my favorite teams, find me a nice, sweet, kind woman that will beat me at coming up with the most funniest sarcastic comments (without being mean or hurtful) and I am happy.
4 comments:
I couldn't agree more....I need mental stimulation or u have nothing to offer me at this point in my life.....Check out
"Mind Games"
http://25champ-lovestoned.blogspot.com/2010/03/mind-games.html
Very interesting. Never knew there was an actual theory tied to this. Gonna check out more
I laughed really hard at your experience...sorry. But, i agree wholeheartedly on the mental stimulation. Great post and thanks for sharing the link. He is a great blogger as well.
I'm speechless! okay shocked. lol Who says all that but someone who is clearly off...poor thang! LOL! and How are you going to stay a virgin for life if you want to be in a relationship? The hell??
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