27 June 2023
--and then I came across this- Q Tip - The Q Tip Tape Volume 01 (Re Upload)
26 June 2023
Good morning!
Life is too short to wake up with regrets. So love the people who treat you right and forget about the ones who don't.
Have a great week!
currently listening to Forever In My Life (Live In Utrecht - 2020 Remaster) by Prince
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25 June 2023
Now Available!
My short story, on Amazon Kindle
The Way Out Is Through
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24 June 2023
-let me know
I looked for you today.
After I left the barbershop I went to a coffeeshop with my knapsack. I working on the climax of a short story I'm writing and I need to write every thought I had in my head to see what would work). A friend suggested I start going to new places regularly, so I went to the coffee shop around the corner from me, but it was packed. There was no seating and there was a line of people waiting for their orders and waiting to place orders, so I left.
I looked for you today.
There's a Starbucks in the Hyatt Regency around the corner from me. In the past I have stopped by there on my way home from the barbershop, so today I stopped by there, got my coffee and sat down. There were people there, coming and going. I pulled out my pen, pad and headphones, but thought that headphones might keep people from approaching me, so I left the headphones on the table and and my writing. I saw no one that caught my interest and about 90 minutes later, I packed up and left. Then I remembered a friend from Minneapolis likes a particular coffee shop on Prospect St called Collectivo, and I went there and did the same thing. I saw no one that caught my interest and about an hour later, I packed up and left. I know I probably will need to go these places regularly.
I looked for you today.
I was hungry and a Korean restaurant was a block away from Collectivo. I had always wanted to try their food, so I went there. It was empty. I discovered after I was seated that it had only been open for 3 minutes. So I ate my meal and I left.
I looked for you today.
I went to Liliput Records for some Vinyl. I'm looking for house music and some dembo. I found some great dance music and I paid for my purchase and I left.
I looked for you today.
It was a beautiful day so I needed a reason to stay outside but I couldn't find a reason, so I went to the gym.
I looked for you today.
After I left the gym I went home, showered, changed clothes, and I went to Milwaukee Public Market, got some clam chowder and a beer and I went outside and people watched. Then about an hour later left. I went home and took a nap.
I looked for you today.
I'd like to think you were looking for me too. Please let me know where you are so that I can find you.
It's 10 pm on a saturday night and I am home, with no plans.
Tomorrow I'll be at church though. Will you be there?
currently listening to I Wish U Heaven, by Prince
23 June 2023
Now Available!
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When All Is Said and Done- Note to Self
22 June 2023
Don't waste my time.
If you can't play the part, don't audition for the role.
currently listening to Change of Heart, by Change
I'm going to set this down right here.
Whomever you're important to...
- Will look for you.
- Will check in on you.
- Will call you.
- Will text you.
20 June 2023
Wearing Out Vs Rusting Out; Embracing Life's Challenges
Theodore Roosevelt once said, "We must all either wear out or rust out, every one of us. My choice is to wear out." This powerful quote is a reminder that we have a choice on how we live our lives and if we want to make the most of our time on this earth, or simply fade away.
Roosevelt was a man with a lot of energy and drive. He lived life to the fullest and accomplished great things. His quote encourages us to do the same. Whether we're working, exercising, or pursuing our passions, we should put our all into everything we do. We should strive to wear out rather than rust out.
When we wear out, we're using our physical and mental strengths to their fullest potential. We're pushing ourselves to the limit, taking risks, and embracing challenges. Wearing out means that we're exploring our true potential and not allowing fear or laziness to hold us back. Whether it's trying something new, stepping outside of our comfort zone, or pursuing a new opportunity, we should always choose to wear out rather than rust out.
So what can we do to ensure that we're wearing out? Firstly, we must set goals and push ourselves towards them. This could be anything from learning a new hobby, running a marathon, or starting a new business venture. We must also challenge ourselves daily and step outside of our comfort zones regularly. This could mean taking the stairs instead of the elevator, going for a morning jog, or reaching out to a new connection.
Above all, we must commit to living a full and active life. Making the choice to wear out means making the most of the time we have, taking risks, and embracing challenges. By doing so, we can push ourselves to greater heights and achieve our dreams. So let's wear out instead of rust out, and live life to its fullest potential.
-me
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True.
Life is short. Smile while you still have teeth.-
-author unknown
My Godson Emmanuel |
Currently listening to Cloreen Bacon Skin by Prince
Self-reminders
It's difficult at times, but I have to remind myself (and I have to say it out loud) that:
- I am worthy of love and respect.
- I am beautiful inside and out ( this is perhaps the hardest; I don't find myself considerably attractive so I try to make sure the beauty that is in me is strong enough to make up for what look like on the outside).
- I am enough just as I am.
- I radiate love and positivity.
- I trust myself and my instincts.
- My heart is open and receptive to love.
- I deserve to be happy and fulfilled.
- I am confident in my own skin (this is the easiest- looking at my brown skin makes me smile).
- I choose love over fear.
- I am grateful for my unique qualities.
- I treat myself with kindness and compassion.
- I am deserving of all the love, joy, and abundance in the world. - Lord, if you're listening...
- I am constantly growing and evolving.
- My worth is not defined by external factors.
- I am my own best friend and advocate.
- I am worthy of my own time and attention.
- I trust the path of my life and know that everything happens for a reason.
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19 June 2023
Note to Self
Every experience in my life is an opportunity for growth and learning.
Hope you have a blessed week!
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18 June 2023
Reading: Not With Laughter, by Langston Hughes
I just completed reading this book, by one of my favorite poets,
Langston Hughes
"Not Without Laughter" is a powerful exploration of African American life in the early 20th century. Through the story of a young boy named Sandy, Hughes examines themes of identity, family, and community, offering a vivid portrait of a world that is both unique and universal.
At its core, "Not Without Laughter" is a coming-of-age story that follows Sandy as he navigates the challenges of growing up in a world that is often hostile to people of color. Sandy's journey is a deeply personal one, but it is also representative of the experiences of countless African Americans who were coming of age during this time period.
One of the most striking aspects of the novel is the way in which Hughes portrays the complex dynamics of African American families. Sandy's mother, Annjee, is a hardworking woman who is determined to provide for her family, but she is also deeply conflicted about her role as a mother. She is often distant and preoccupied, leaving Sandy to fend for himself. Despite this, Sandy loves his mother deeply and is fiercely loyal to her.
Sandy's relationship with his grandmother, Hager, is similarly complicated. Hager is a deeply religious woman who has strong opinions about how Sandy should be raised. She is often critical of Annjee, and she sees herself as the moral center of the family. Despite their disagreements, however, Sandy and Hager share a deep bond, and Hager serves as a source of strength and guidance for him throughout the novel.
Through these and other characters, Hughes paints a rich and complex portrait of African American family life, showing how these relationships can be both sources of support and of tension.
Another central theme of the novel is the importance of community. Throughout the book, Sandy is surrounded by a network of people who offer him guidance and support. From the members of his church to the teachers at his school, Sandy is constantly reminded that he is part of something larger than himself.
This sense of community is particularly important given the many challenges that Sandy faces. He is often subjected to racism and discrimination, and he must navigate a world that is often hostile to people of color. Despite this, however, Sandy remains resilient and hopeful, buoyed by the knowledge that he is not alone in his struggles.
Ultimately, "Not Without Laughter" is a powerful reminder of the resilience and strength of the human spirit. Through Sandy's story, Hughes offers a vivid and compelling portrait of African American life during this time period, showing both the challenges and opportunities that existed for people of color. By the end of the novel, I was left with a sense of hope and possibility, and a renewed appreciation for the power of community and the importance of family.
currently listening to Brotha, by Angie Stone
17 June 2023
Mood
16 June 2023
I'll surprise myself
If we could only unlock our true potential, there would be no limit to what we could achieve and the heights we could reach.
-me
currently listening to It's All About Me (Official Music Video) Mya, featuring Dru Hill
We all win
The peace we win when we stop fighting.
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15 June 2023
Choosing Happiness: A Life Practice of Carrying Beauty
Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer describes her practice of carrying the world’s beauty with her in “Why I Smile At Strangers,” writing, “I carry these things in my heart, more certain than ever that one way to counteract evil is to ceaselessly honor what’s good…” In a world full of chaos, negativity, and pessimistic thinking, it's easy to forget about the beauty that surrounds us. But, as Trommer shows in her life practice, choosing to focus on positivity can change our perception of the world.
We all have the power to carry the world's beauty in our hearts. It's a simple practice that can bring joy, gratitude, and peace to our lives. We can choose to see the beauty in the world and honor it every day, no matter what challenges we face.
There are many ways we can carry the world's beauty with us, such as:
1. Practice gratitude: Take time every day to reflect on the things you're grateful for. It could be something as simple as a warm cup of coffee or a kind gesture from someone.
2. Connect with nature: Spend time in nature, whether it's a walk in the park or a hiking trip. Take in the beauty of the natural world and allow it to fill you with peace and wonder.
3. Share kindness: Small acts of kindness can go a long way. Smile at a stranger, hold the door open for someone, or simply say please and thank you.
4. Celebrate diversity: Embrace the differences that make each of us unique. Learn about different cultures, try new foods, and make connections with people who are different from you.
5. Create beauty: Whether it's through art, music, or cooking, tap into your creativity and make something beautiful. Creating something with your own hands can be a powerful way to honor the beauty in the world.
In a world where negativity often reigns, it's important to remember that beauty still exists. We can all carry the world's beauty in our hearts and choose to honor what's good. By doing so, we can counteract evil, spread joy, and create a more positive world.
-me
When I think of beauty, Halle Berry always appears. |
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Halle Berry And Angelina Jolie To Star In Action Thriller Maude Vs Maude
Question/Note to Self
Note to Self:
Does it actually lighten someone else’s suffering when we sacrifice our own joy?
It can be a complicated question and the answer depends on the situation. Sacrificing our own joy to help someone in pain or despair can certainly have a positive impact on their well-being. For example, comforting a grieving friend or family member during a difficult time might require us to sacrifice some of our own happiness or energy to support them, but it can certainly make a positive contribution to their emotional health.
However, it is also important to recognize that sacrificing our own joy and well-being should not be a constant, long-term solution to another's suffering. Repeatedly ignoring our own needs in favor of helping others can lead to feelings of resentment, burnout, and bitterness. It is important to strike a balance between caring for ourselves and community support.
Additionally, it might be helpful to identify when sacrificing our own joy would be appropriate and when taking self-care measures is the way to go, for the long-term benefits of our own welfare and mental health.
currently listening to Footsteps in the Dark, Pts. 1 & 2, by The Isley Brothers
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Why Introverts Hate Small Talk | The Matt Walsh Show Ep. 71
14 June 2023
On being economical
I
don't
talk
much,
but
you'll
hear
what
you
need
to
hear
.
-me
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The Art of Appreciation: Finding Joy in Life's Simple Pleasures (Note to Self)
In a world that seems to be moving faster than ever, it can be easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of life. We often forget to stop and appreciate the small things that happen around us; things that can bring us joy and remind us that life doesn't have to be so complicated.
For many people, it’s the simple things in life that bring them the most happiness. A warm embrace from a loved one, the sound of birds chirping in the morning, the smell of fresh coffee brewing, the touch of a cool breeze on your skin, a hearty laugh with friends... These are all small things that we may take for granted, but they have the power to significantly impact our mood and lift our spirits.
So how can we learn to appreciate the little things in life? Here are a few tips:
1. Slow down and be present: With so many distractions around us, it can be hard to focus on the present moment and take in all the details of our surroundings. Try to take a break from your phone or laptop every now and then, put your worries aside, and just be in the present moment. Take a deep breath and soak in all the small details around you.
2. Practice gratitude: Taking time to reflect on what you are grateful for is an excellent way to appreciate the little things in life. Every day, take a few minutes to reflect on what you're thankful for and how it brings joy and positivity to your life.
3. Find joy in the simple things: Finding joy in the most basic things can be deeply satisfying. It could be something as trivial as a playful game with your pet, watching the sunset, a walk in nature, or even reading a book by your favorite author.
4. Create new experiences: Trying out new experiences can ignite a renewed sense of appreciation for the small things in life. You could take up new hobbies, visit new places, try new foods, or even just rearrange your living room to create a fresh look.
The biggest takeaway here is that happiness isn't found in material possessions or lavish lifestyles, but rather in the little moments that make life worth living. When we learn how to pay attention, appreciate, and cherish these small things, we can constantly find new sources of joy and purpose in our lives. So, take a step back, observe, reflect, and appreciate the little things in your life.
currently listening to Simple Pleasures, by Karyn White
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13 June 2023
The prepositions
as of 2021, there are 7.888 billion people on planet Earth.
I should be able to find love somewhere on this planet, right?
Under what rock over what bridge around what corner through what tunnel along what highway in what church by what car behind what group of people at what music festival in front of what grocery store up which elevator to what floor of which job or restaurant through which friend can she be found?
I'm getting old. And I'm tired.
currently listening to When love calls, by Sharon Bryant
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Acerca de la vida
currently listening to Precious, by Angela Winbush
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12 June 2023
Forever, for Always, for Love-Luther Vandross
Note to self
I trust in God's plan for me.
Currently listening to Shockadelica, by Prince
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11 June 2023
La, La, La, He, He, Hee (Highly Explosive - 2020 Remaster)
10 June 2023
Power of Resilience: How to Build Coping Skills for Life's Challenges
Rodrigo: "Hey! How are you doing, Selena?"
Selena: "Honestly, not too great. I feel like everything is falling apart, and I'm struggling to stay afloat during this crisis."
Rodrigo: "I'm sorry to hear that. What's been going on?"
Selena: "Between work, family, and everything else, I can feel myself getting burnt out. It's like I'm just one step away from a breakdown."
Rodrigo: "It can be really challenging to deal with so much stress and uncertainty. But, there are things you can do to strengthen your resilience and cope better in crisis situations."
Selena: "Really? Like what?"
Rodrigo: "Well, first of all, it's important to practice self-care. Make sure to take breaks when you need them, prioritize sleep, eat well, and exercise. These actions are fundamental to help keep you healthy so that you can handle stressful experiences."
Selena: "That's a great idea! What else?"
Rodrigo: "You can also practice positive thinking and mindfulness. Focus on gratitude, celebrate small successes, and cultivate compassion and kindness for yourself. These strategies can help you feel more optimistic and manage your mental health."
Selena: "I see what you mean. How can you strengthen your coping skills beyond these strategies?"
Rodrigo: "It's also a good idea to create a support network of family, friends, or a professional to call on in times of crisis. Talking with others about your troubles or worries helps you to gain a new perspective and better resolve issues."
Selena: "Thanks, I think it's all coming together. It's unbelievable how talking with someone else can make things feel much less serious, reassuring, but impactful."
Rodrigo: "Exactly, remember that practicing resilience is a process and can be established over time with conviction and practice. You cannot thrive without process - so look after yourself, celebrate your small wins, and let these coping mechanisms unlock your potential even during hardship. Building this resilience means strengthening yourself when needed the most."
Selena: "Thanks Rodrigo! With your advice, I feel so much less alone, capable, and better armed."
-me
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09 June 2023
My 2nd act
08 June 2023
Housequake (2020 Remaster)
on being able to exhale
True love recognizes the beauty in imperfections, sees beyond the flaws, and embraces the vulnerable parts of each other's souls. To find someone who sees your struggles and stays, who accepts you at your worst and helps you to be your best is to find a precious gift that shouldn't be taken for granted.
-me
curently listening to Here we go, by Minnie Ripperton
07 June 2023
The stranger in the mirror
There is a certain irony in being critical of people for their behaviors, only to find yourself adopting those same behaviors or beliefs over time. It serves as a reminder that true self-awareness and growth require constant examination and reflection on our own actions and beliefs, in order to ensure that we are always striving to be the best versions our ourselves.
-me
currently listening toFind a way, by Dwele
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La, La, La, He, He, Hee (Highly Explosive - 2020 Remaster)
06 June 2023
Grief, defined
05 June 2023
Go Big by Going Small; Why Vulnerability is the Game-Changing Secret Ingredient for Success
But vulnerability is important because it allows us to share our thoughts, emotions, and experiences with others, allowing for the creation of bonds and more profound connections. With that, here are 5 ways to practice vulnerability:
1. Self-Awareness
The first step in practicing vulnerability is to be more aware of your thoughts and emotional landscape within their context. Sit with them, give them room to unfold, and ask yourself what meaning they may hold.
2. Self-Acceptance
Self-acceptance entails that regardless of the imperfections and inadequacies that we perceive in ourselves, we remain grounded, honest, and open to growth and change. This step allows us to embrace our authentic selves fully and share it with those we trust.
3. Courage
Being vulnerable requires courage. It takes fortitude to confront fear and communicate our emotions to others honestly. It means taking personal risks and being open to the possibility of judgment or rejection.
4. Trust
Vulnerability requires another person on the other end; someone, you are willing to open up to and share your thoughts and emotions. It's vital to share our vulnerability with people who have demonstrated trustworthiness, empathy, and consistency.
5. Practice vulnerability through communication
Many people have a preconceived notion of what it means to be strong, and These notions could be challenging to shake. However, vulnerability could mean expressing oneself openly without coming from a place of weakness.
By arming yourself with communication skills and a willingness to share your authentic thoughts and emotions, you also build trust and a better social support structure.
Practicing vulnerability can be scary; however, it is very crucial to our personal growth and mental health. As you open yourself up to others and embrace your authentic self, you begin to forge connections with others. The result is a sense of community and deeper relationships that lead to personal connections and positive life changes. Whether it's in our personal or professional life, apply little steps today to live in vulnerable ways, to communicate authentically and openly, without reservation. It will only serve you in positive ways and ultimately strengthen who you are as a person.
-me
Vanessa Wallace-GonzalesThe Masks I Wore |
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03 June 2023
The best reaction
8candleMcqueen
So,
I thought my book Designer Strait Jackets & Other Novellas was ready to be submitted to literary agents, but I became obsessed with one more idea, and after I started, the above title came to me as a wifi password in a dream. As it became the name of the story, I had to then figure out how to incorporate it into the story, and then I found the story steering in a different direction. I'm still interested in the initial idea, but I made the mistake of making the personality of a main character so strong, so quirky and so disturbing that she's becoming the main character. In my mind, in my stories, I have the beginning, the climax and the end, and it's getting from one part to the next. The story is becoming something about her craziness, but the story is not meant to be about her. Her son is the main character, and this story is about him seeking and getting revenge on his parents. I'm wondering if I should fade out his character and make the story about her.... stay tuned.
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02 June 2023
Sweet/Sour
for some people in particular.
I wasn’t appreciated when I was sweet. Now I’m going to mirror their sour treatment of me.
They’ll be surprised.
currently listening to Smile, by Lilly Allen
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01 June 2023
Razor sharp
Love is like a double-edged sword, where the sharpest blades can hurt the most, but also have the potential to protect and defend with its strength.
-me
currently listening to Feel the fire, by Stephanie Mills
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