I know some people who will ride love until the last wheel falls off, even though the other wheels fell off a long time ago. My mother did it with both husbands. My sister did it with both husbands. I have friends doing that with their girlfriends or wives or husbands. Some of you know my story: for me it was over with my ex when she, a Christian, went to Houston to see her father who was ill, and she returned 6 weeks later (after he passed away) a devout Muslim, wearing what Bill Maher calls, a bee-keeper suit, showing only her mouth, eyes, and hands. We're still close, and we tried to maintain the relationship for a minute, but knowing how I felt, we both knew it was over the minute I saw her wrapped in material from head to toe (which, alone should be a crime, because she was too beautiful to be covered up). And just 6 weeks earlier, I thought she was the one.
So, regarding your past relationships how did you know when it was really over ?
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you know its over when you or your partner has a new partner
I was engaged to this girl in college named Wendy. She was my teachable moment about women/relationships. I was crazy about her. The one thing we had in common is that she was crazy about her and so was I. That's probably about it though.
Anyway I used to spend every moment with her that I could, unless I was sleeping, in class or at my piece of shit minimum wage job. One night I get a call from a girl who I didn't know. She introduced herself and asked me if I really knew what Wendy did when we weren't together.......of course, my heart sunk and I said no. She said that my girlfriend took her boyfriend away from her and spends all kinds of time with him. She even told me that her ex told them that they were going to a movie that night while I was supposed to be at work. I called out of work and made it my mission to find out if any of this were true. She wasn't at home so I went to every theatre in Montgomery that night, showing that movie. I walked in, looked around and then went on to the next place. She and he were in the third theatre I went to. I basically made an ass of myself and our relationship ended that night.
It's interesting that you posted this today because I'd actually decided after posting my latest blog that I'd be blogging about cheating later on in the week.
Most of us have probably been cheated on before, whether we know it or not; or at least done the cheating ourselves. To be honest, I'd cheated on most of my girlfriends, but I never cheated on Wendy.....never wanted to either.
When I was able to breathe... be in the same space as an ex, & not feel weird, sick to my stomach or the overwhelming urge to cry or kill, that's when I knew it was over. For real.
Every relationship, no matter how painful, bitter or acrimonious serves to teach us something essential about ourselves. The blessing is in the lesson.
Snatch JOY!
One.
Hmmm.. I KNOW I left a comment here yesterday.
The crux of it was: no matter the joy or pain, the bitter after taste or the sweetness of the memory, all relationships are designed to teach us something very essential about our selves.
The Blessing is in the Lesson.
Snatch JOY!
One.
@ Major.Mack, yeah, you got a point.
@Moanerplicity,I don't think I learned anything my last relationship. Religion tore us apart. She's married now to a muslim man,and she and I still are as close as a man and woman can be platonically. I mean, this woman, of all the women I have, accepted my faults, accepted my crazy family, gladly did all the cleaning while i gladly did all the cooking...she even asked my advice of the guys she sated after me and i asked about women i dated after her. Very sad, but to reiterate, if religion did not exist, we would be married.
@Reggie-sorry to hear about Wendy. I have a Wendy story. Mine was named Melinda. My baby mama. My son is 28 now. Actually, he's not my son- I found out when he was 18 an needed a kidney ( i offered mind) that our DNA was not a match. When I was in college she had been fucking with my then-best friend. But my son still thinks of me as his dad, so it's still good between me and him, but she really broke my heart then, more than when she dumped me- while she was pregnant with him. As a result, I can honestly say that I have never ever cheated on anyone, because I know how it feels.
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